What's In a Name?

Rub-a-dub-dub, Three men in a tub,
And who do you think they be?
The butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker,

And all of them out to sea.

 

Pop-quiz! What do James Booker, Karen Carpenter, John Constable, Noel Coward, James Dean, William Faulkner, Carrie Fisher, George Foreman, Danny Glover, Stephen Hawking, Susan Hayward, Gustav Mahler, Harry Potter, Adam Sandler, Franz Schubert, Robert Schumann, James Taylor and  J.M.W. Turner all have in common?

 

Take a moment before reading on and see if you can guess. 

 

Got it? 

 

Buzzzz! Time’s up. They all have surnames that come from professions. Most of English origin, a few above from German. For some reason, I started obsessing about this and examples running through my mind woke me up far too early. I made a pretty good list on my own and then supplemented it with some simple online research. Here it is. See if your name or a friend’s or a famous person you might know is on here:

 

Baker, Barber, Butcher, Booker, Brewer, Butler, Carpenter, Constable, Cook, Cooper, Dean, Duke, Dyer, Fisher, Foreman, Gardner, Goldsmith, Harper, Hunter, Hooper, Merchant, Miller, Miner, Painter, Piper, Planter, Porter, Potter, Schubert/Schumann/Shoemaker, Shepard, Smith, Spicer, Tanner, Taylor, Warden, Waterman, Weaver, Wheeler. 

 

Most of the above are fairly self-explanatory, but there’s a whole other list that needs a little explanation. 

 

Chandler, (candle-maker), Carter (wagon driver), Cartwright (wagon-maker), Coward (from cow-herd, one who herds cows), Faulkner (falconer), Fletcher (feathers on arrows), Forester/Forster/ Foster (scissors-makers), Glazer (glass-worker), Glover (glove-maker), Grover (tends to trees), Hawking (falconer), Hayward (fence-keeper), Mahler (maker of stained glass windows), Sandler (sandal-maker), Turner (lathe-worker), Walker (Waulker—one who finishes newly woven tweed). 

 

Like the days of the week or the months of the year, we seldom inquire where words and names come from, but I, for one, find it fascinating. 

 

And now I—and you — can get on with the day. 

 

The Sum of It

 

1973. Long before QR codes, text codes, passport chips, passwords, HEIC/JPG/ PDF’s, online ticketing without a human in sight—in short, all the things that didn’t work for me last night and had me bellowing in rage. Topped off by a Premier Inn reading light that didn’t work, no new bulb at the front desk, my suggestion to use an extension cord to move the desk lamp by my bedside and then discovering the lamp was bolted to the desk. So many last straws that broke the back of my patience that I was imagining writing a suicide note:

 

“Sorry. I just couldn’t bear one more password that didn’t work. Farewell, cruel world!”

 

And then thinking I should re-charge my phone before killing myself in case St. Peter required a QR Code before entering the pearly gates. 

 

But back in 1973, I had no inkling of the insanity to come. I was 22 years old and awash with wonder as I went to Europe for the first time with my college choir. In between singing sacred 15^th century masses in the great cathedrals of France and Italy, going to art museums, attending wine tastings (yes, really!), I spent my free time wandering the streets and alleys of cities, often ending up in a park or garden. There I would sit on a bench, open my journal and try to catch a bit of the multiple joys as they were flying. Mortality was a distant city at which I imagined I would never arrive and the whole world lay before me—tangible, tantalizing and tasty. Sheer bliss.

 

Now it’s 2026. So much of that world that lay ahead unwritten now lies behind. My contemporary life, like just about everyone’s, is wholly ensnared in the tangled trip-wires of technology. I appear to need my phone for my hearing aids, maps, menus, messages, aps, Uber, banking, wake-up calls, e-mails, photos, etc. etc. and again etc. When things don’t work, I’m mostly out of luck. When they do, I benefit. But do I really? It’s just too much constantly clamoring for attention and drawing me away from the wonder of wandering free.

 

And yet. I still can taste that earlier sense of adventure in three- dimensions, savor the textures, tastes, sounds, smells and sights. I still can set off on my own two legs and go where I choose to direct them or be led by them- and apparently, for as far as 9.5 miles, as I did the other day. I still head for benches in parks to write with a pen in my journal. * 

 

And that’s where I am now, in a little garden near the Fashion Museum in London, with its fragrant and colorful roses, the pleasure of a little sunshine, the distant sounds of children playing. It’s still possible to live like this. Not easy. But possible.

 

As for mortality, that shadowy companion that reminds me to savor each moment yet more fully, my response is a simple vow that arose when a friend commented on a Facebook post sharing photos from our walk in the Yorkshire Dales. She said: 

 

“Living your best life!”

 

And I replied: 

 

“Doing what I can with whom I can when I can while I can.”

 

Which read to me like a pretty good Elder’s Mission Statement. 

 

So again: “Doing what I can with whom I can when I can while I can.”

 

That’s the sum of it.

* I actually did write the above in my handwritten journal and liked it enough to type it over here.

  

This Is What It Looks Like

 

“Be the change you want to see in the world,” Gandhi famously said, and this could be an oath for all teachers. But not every teacher has a clear vision of what that might look and feel like. So here’s a little help from a remarkable 5^th grade teacher, as she posted in Facebook to mark the end of the school year:

 

As another school year comes to a close, I’m dizzy with emotion, as usual. Today, was our elementary graduation ceremony. I had stayed up late the night before putting all 750 pictures from my phone into a slideshow, which cued up to cheesy music that played on repeat for 15 minutes. 

 

I did the math and between cross country, monthly walk to schools, and the end of the year camping trip, these fifth graders and I have walked 100 miles together. In the rain (we found lots of snails on that walk), in the heat (they found creative ways to discuss the weather without breaking the “one whine a day” rule), up 212 steps to the top of windy hills (with a mandatory meditation at the top), and running down single-track paths. 

We had our annual camping trip to finish the year and it was all the magic I hoped it to be- kids inventing games, skipping rocks, telling scary stories, washing their hands at the spigot, and on our last night, going on a night hike.

The kids walked alone, one at a time as the brightness dimmed and we formed a circle on top of a small hill - the vastness of the water below. They were all a little silly and I pulled us in close, inviting words of appreciation for the class. 

Ella says that this is a class where everyone belongs. And that’s special. Ben says that everyone is there for you. You never have to be alone. I said this is the only class I’ve had and likely will ever have that can whip up an improvised skit about the travels of an egg, complete with fallopian tube butlers and the pituitary gland actor standing on a chair conducting the whole thing. And everyone has a part. And everyone is laughing.

 

I told them to see how far they could walk back without turning on their flashlight. I called it a night hike challenge. They immediately, Pavlovian-like respond, “dun, dun dun” They are crazed, the emotion spilling out into silliness.

Yuzu was spinning in circles on the trail, giggling uncontrollably. She said, in between breaths, “I’m laughing and I’m crying all at the same time.” Emile said in his signature wry voice- “Yeah, I think that’s the point.” 

 

Indeed, that’s the point. If you give children what they need and deserve, they get it. And hopefully grow to be adults who never forget it. And pass it on.

 

The kind of change in the world this extraordinary 5^th grade teacher created does not come for free. It requires constant dreaming of what might be, married to the hard, hard work of setting it in motion. Detail after detail planning classes, the jazz discipline of responding to whatever the kids throw your way, long hours reading papers and asking the questions that get the kids to come up with the answers for more clarity and better answers. It demands a faith and a patience beyond the ordinary, a reaching far beyond any job description, a determination to fill the serious work with fun and good humor. It asks for a capacity to see the beauty in each and every child amidst all their quirks and failings and drive-you-crazy habits, and in so doing, to genuinely love them and let them know they are seen and valued and loved. All of which this 5^th grade teacher accomplished. I could not by more impressed or inspired by her and her work.

 

And she is my daughter. 

Hiking Clothes

When I first visited Salzburg in 1990, I was so impressed to see elder women (though probably younger than I am now!) riding bicycles here, there and everywhere, dressed in skirts or drindls. Just out to the market for the groceries they put in the front basket and off to visit a friend. No one was counting miles or dressed in bike gear or even wearing a helmet. No one was part of a club of bike enthusiasts subscribed to the Biker’s Magazine, no one was comparing bikes and prices or debating about cleated shoes/ pedals. No one joined a Bike Coalition to pressure city hall for more bike-friendly roads. The bike paths were already in place and people used them as a matter of simple daily life. Biking was not a “thing”—it was simply a way to get from here to there and back again.

 

But in my country, everything has to be a “thing.” Special gear, special schedules, special vocabulary, clubs, magazines, the whole deal. Be it birdwatching or folk dancing or pickleball, biking or roller-blading or kayaking, downloading aps and upgrading phones, everything has a little industry built around it. Gone is the simple pleasure of just doing it, the simple conversations about the pleasure of doing it, the simple act of doing it all without elaborate and expensive gear. 

 

So although I enjoy biking, I’m not a “biker.” I never purchased a single item of biker’s clothing, from the corporate logo’ed shirts and shorts to the gloves and certainly not the cleats. Yes, I wear a helmet, but occasionally (sshh! don’t tell) ride without one (especially in Salzburg) and have lived to tell the tale. 

 

So on this walk (and on the bike trip soon to come), I’m wearing my normal clothes— my city shoes, jeans, shirt and blue raincoat and it has been just fine. I probably could have brought my seldom-used pair of rain-pants—they’re light and would have been useful these last three days of walking in the rain. Today, my jeans got quite wet and added weight and coldness to yet another walk through the lovely countryside. We stopped for lunch at Elaine’s Tea House in Feizer and sitting there in my cold, wet jeans, got the funny idea of taking them off in the bathroom and holding them under the hot-air hand dryer. Which I did! As my wife predicted, it didn’t make much of an impact, so just walked the final two miles to the town of Austwick with them cold and wet and that was just fine. Settle in our room, stuff newspaper in our shoes to dry them, hang the jeans on the bathroom heated towel rack and all is well.

 

So ends officially our four days of walking and a bit sad to see it end. I think I could keep up like this for a few weeks or a month. My legs are certainly getting stronger (we walked 9.5 miles yesterday), my connection with sheep and cows deepened, my acceptance of different weathers enlarged and my spirit fed by life in the open air. As the title of a movie I saw once on a plane says: 

 

Happy. Thank you. More please.

 

Odds and Ends

In the spirit of “What’s different here?”, a few little odds and ends from our time in the U.K.

 

• Dogs in Restaurants: Kind of charming until one yips loudly in your ear.

 

• Dog Ice Cream: Huh?

 

• Choices for tips— 10%/ 12% / 15%. Yeah! 

 

• Pickles:  A kind of chutney used in cheese-pickle sandwiches.

 

• Flapjacks: Not pancakes, but a cross between a granola bar and an oat bar.

 

• Beck, Scar, Dale, Moor: A stream, a rocky outcropping, a valley, an open hillside with few (if any) trees.

 

Today, our fourth day of hiking, we’ll be walking through them all. 

Bi-Pedal Bliss

 

I really have to thank my wife for envisioning and organizing this trip. There are few things in this life more pleasurable than walking from village to village in a relentless stunningly beautiful countryside, in company with sheep, cows and a few fenced bulls. Whether in heavy mist, light rain, streaming sunshine, no matter. It’s all good. It’s all very good. And in no small part because human beings were built to walk. Some anthropologists speculate that hunter-gatherers walked from 15 to 20 miles daily and since we essentially have the same bodies as our ancestors from so many thousands of years ago, it’s no surprise that we come more fully into our humanity when we attend to the body as it was meant to move.

 

Of course, many compensate with the gym, but I can testify that paying for a membership, driving to the site, changing in the locker room, walking or running on treadmills going nowhere at all, either to pounding music or a fake landscape on a screen, showering, getting dressed, getting back in the car to drive home is a far, far cry from walking out the door onto the path and through the fields. And yes, I recognize that there is some privilege to fly to this country, pay for this casually-organized experience that includes hotels and people taking your luggage to the next one, going out for too-expensive dinners. It's not a viable model for all of humanity. In-between the two are cultures that organize their daily lives around such walking outside and there are many.

 

Meanwhile. Our first day walking in Malham was in company with scores of other people— apparently, a very popular route to see the waterfall at Gordale Scar and the remarkable limestone. A nice mix of old and young, English and tourists, with the English including large Muslim families. It was a round-trip to and from our hotel and a thorough delight.

 

The second day was walking from our hotel in Malham to our next in Settle and here we were virtually the only people on the path. Met two couples coming the other way and that was that. There was rain just about the whole walk, but not torrential and our simple raincoats and an umbrella I carried but never opened were enough to be comfortable. This was indeed the English walk we imagined—after all, that brilliant green of the fields does not come from a dry climate! We arrive in Settle at 2:30, the hotel not open until 3:30, looked for some shelter to eat the lunch we brought in our packs and had to settle for a doorstep in front of a theater not yet open for the night. Something nice about the two of us in our mid-70’s traveling as we did in our 20’s, eating simple sandwiches we carried wherever there was a place to sit down. 

 

We knew some friends of ours back home had independently planned a walk in the Yorkshire Dales, but they hadn’t seem too interested in coordinating when we found out we all were going to be there close to the same time. But Karen decided to write them an e-mail and imagine our surprise when our phone rang and there they were—Stephanie and David! They were staying in a town nearby and had planned to visit Settle, so we decided to meet them this morning and then go on part of our scheduled round-trip hike together. 

And that we did, spending a few fun hours together walking up to Victoria Cave and having lunch in the overhang. They then retraced their steps to take their train and we went forward on— but apparently, quite a bit too much forward as we missed some turn-off and went 2 miles in the wrong direction before finally figuring out our mistake. We backtracked to where the error was made and then, with the help of a friendly Yorkshire man who wondered why we had a President like we do,

found a short-cut that saved us from retracing our exact steps. With the extra reward of the sun emerging and illuminating the landscape so reminiscent of a David Hockney painting. Apparently, not accidentally so—he came here to paint!

Our final day tomorrow, from our hotel in Settle to the next in Clapham and I’m fine in any weather, but if the gods are listening, that sun sure felt good today. We shall see. 

 

Sharing the Wealth

One quality that feeds my faith in our humanity is how we are disposed to share good things that fall our way. Be it a spiritual insight, a falling in love or  an artistic expression, we rarely hoard it and keep it to ourselves. Buddha could have lived in a cave enjoying blissful samadhi but instead chose to teach. Two lovers could have locked the doors to their connubial bliss, but instead, hold a wedding and invite the friends and family to witness. And though not all succeed, every artist hopes to display in a gallery or museum, every writer to publish, every scientist to lecture, every musician, dancer or actor to perform. It is in the sharing that the happiness that comes our way is fully completed.

 

In this spirit, the traveler enjoying new sights, new sounds, new tastes, new ideas, new sense of release from their business-as-usual habitual life, wants to share it with those back home. How to capture a bit of the joys that fly? At the highest level, some might sketch a scene, write a poem, compose a song, keep a journal. But the usual impulse is to send a few postcards or in the old days (ie, my early adulthood), take pictures to be put in a book or slides to be shown at a slide-show gathering at your house, complete with all the travel stories. At the most mundane, the postcards simply said “Having a great time—wish you were here,” the photos taken were often “Here we are in front of the _______. And here we are at the _______” and the stories might have been about how hard it was to find a decent hamburger and a Coke.  But still the impulse to share was a good one, even as the dinner guests were eying the clock.

 

My strategy is both to write daily in my journal and take photos without me in them, try to give a sense of what I’m noticing as I’m passing through a place, from the quirky sign to the street scene to the scenic overview. So here are a few shots to give a little feeling of our first two days of our Yorkshire Dale walking tour. The first day of walking in 75 degree mostly sunny weather and the second in REAL English weather—60 degrees and rainy.

Enjoy and Happy June!