Evolution of a Ceremony

 

“In the beginner’s mind, there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s, there are few.”                  Shunryu Suzuki: From Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind

 

It is my school’s 60^th Anniversary this year and at the Opening Ceremony, they began to honor it by inviting one alum from each decade to join the kids in the Water Ceremony. This is a simple ritual of 8 kids from each grade holding a glass, an 8^th grade teacher pouring water into the 8^th graders glass, who then pours it into the 7^th graders and so on down the line. When pouring, each leaves a little bit of water in their glass. This symbolizes the passing down of knowledge from the older kids to the younger. It acknowledges that the older knows many things the younger doesn’t yet— from math facts to music theory  and practice to basketball skills and beyond that the youngers kids are on their way to learning. When the water arrives at the 1^st grader, she or he pours it into a pitcher held by the 1^st grade teacher (leaving a little in the glass), who then speaks of what the young kids have to offer the older ones—their unblemished sense of wonder and curiosity, their “beginner’s mind” that holds endless possibilities that the “expert’s mind” begins to shut out. (see quote above). 

 

The 1st grader then empties the little water left into the 2^nd graders glass and so on up the line, when the 8^th grader pours his or hers into a pitcher. Now all eight have that empty glass of possibility fter having filled their cup with knowledge. This the ceremony that alums from the 1960’s all the way to the 2020’s took part in. They were then briefly interviewed as to what they felt “filled their cup” from The San Francisco School that proved useful in their lives that followed. This document will be shared with the greater school community and to accompany it, I was asked to talk a bit about the origina of the Water Ceremony.

 

And that’s when I went into the archives in my closet and pulled out a box with every planning book of my 45 years of teaching to see if I could find the first mention of the Opening Ceremony that included the Water Ceremony. And here’s what I discovered and the little article I wrote:

 

I believe my interest in connected the Orff approach to teaching to a wider world of all-school ceremonies, rituals and celebrations was there from my very first year of teaching in 1975. But like all things that grow organically according to nature, from seed to blossom to bush to tree is a slow process. It took some 13 years for that vision to find form in the Opening Ceremony.  I have had the good sense to keep every planning book from each year of my 45 at The San Francisco School and so when the question of when and how the water ceremony began was posed to me, I dug deep in my closet and pulled them out. In Fall of 1988, there was the first mention of it! 

Note that instead of water, the older kids passed down an encyclopedia and the youngest kids passed up a flower! In other parts of the eventual ceremony, note that there was no singing tunnel of teachers, only Terry rang the gong as the head of school, there was no Earth Day Rap and the kids lifted an atlas instead of a globe or Earth Ball.

 

It was in the next year, 1989, that we changed to water.  There was still the Atlas and some weird rubbing of eucalyptus leaves when the kids left to go to their classes. 

 

In 1990, we added the Balinese banners that Karen had sewn, with teachers forming the banner tunnel as kids walked in. Now for the first time, the youngest and oldest rang the gong and apparently, blew the didgeridoo! Now the Earth Day Rap was incorporated and a globe replaced the Atlas. Then the kids exited under another tunnel of palm leaves—who knows where those came from?

In 1991, we changed to the parents holding the banners while the staff was playing some kind of music with cymbals. We added a new welcome song and again, had two kids ring the gongs— without the didgeridoo involved! Now we sang Simple Gifts during the water pouring, sang the song Side by Side at the end and had parents and kids clap for each grade as they exited. No leaf rubbing involved!

And on it went. I believe by 1993, we began the tunnel of singing teachers, some years later, with Sofia now joining in, we added the Bulgarian drum and bagpipe leading the kids to the banner and ended singing Siyahamba. In the last years before we left, I added another song Gonna Build Me a Mountain.

 

Throughout all those minor changes, the kids poured water for the next 37 years, all the way to the 2026 Opening Ceremony where alumni from each decade of the last 60 years joined in. Every day at the school for all that time, knowledge and wisdom of the elder students and teachers has been passed down and the unblemished wonder and curiosity of the younger students passed up to remind us all to keep our beginner’s mind alive, ripe with possibility and questions. May the waters keep flowing!

  

Into the Archives

Archives: Collections of primary source documents, records, and historically valuable materials kept for long-term preservation and research. 

 

Now that I’m not traveling for a couple of months, I’m living the glorious retired life of lunch with friends and acquaintances. Some 10 people in the past few weeks, ranging from friends, family, colleagues. It’s a much more expensive way to keep connected, what with lunch prices being what they are, but delightful to just catch up and talk and enjoy eating outdoors in September’s lovely weather. 

 

This weekend I met up with Keith Terry, the world-famous (in some circles) master of Body Music. We go all the way back to 1984 when a mutual friend brought him to my Orff workshop and he invited me to be part of a 30-person performance that year with modern dancers, circus folks and musicians. Because Orff Schulwerk is the only music education approach that takes body percussion seriously, it proved to be a great connection. I learned his innovative ideas, techniques and practices that I brought to the children and introduced to Orff teachers worldwide, he got connected with the Orff network and expanded his audience and work opportunities. 

 

Over the years, we got to teach together in places like Salzburg, San Francisco and Istanbul and often find ourselves following each other’s footsteps. In the past year alone, we both have been in China, Turkey, Greece, Brazil at different times, often working some of the same people. We both were born in 1951, both have followed a thread our whole lives that is difficult to explain to others, both are still holding that thread as we continue to work well beyond most people’s retirement age, both have documentary films made about us—me, The Secret Song, Keith, Through the Body. In short, we have a lot in common.

 

So meeting at lunch, I asked how it feels to keep working and whether he imagines any “retirement” in sight. He admitted that the long flights that travel demands feel increasingly taxing and told me he built a cabin in the Southwest that is increasingly enticing as a place to ease gracefully into the last act of a long and active life. This year, he is touring as much as ever— four continents in what he’s calling his Gratitude Tour, a chance to see people he’s met and loved over the years who probably will not come back to the U.S. until we oust the fascists. 

 

I then asked if he had begun his “Swedish Death Cleaning,” digging into all the documentation of papers, flyers, letters, cassette tapes, books, instrument collections, etc. and he admitted that he’s somewhat attached to it all and can’t see randomly throwing it all. I concurred 1000% and when he framed it all as valuable “archives,” that really hit home. 

 

In the recent Mary Oliver documentary I just saw, it tells of how she began her career as the archivist for the poet Edna St Vincent-Millay after she had passed away. This has long been standing practice with artists in all fields and certainly writers. I suspect in a world overrun with the sheer quantity of stuff and the sense that everything is replaceable and now is the only moment that counts that such practice is fading. I wonder if someone is hard at work at Wendell Berry’s estate or someone did the same for Mary Oliver when she passed in 2019.

 

Of course, it takes a certain kind of hubris to think that one’s life’s works merits such attention. In Keith’s case, it is certainly deserving as he set in motion a unique approach to music-making that is thriving beyond his role of curating it all. Having created the International Body Music Festival and retired from running it, he went to the recent one in Montreal as a participant/ observer and was thrilled with the clear evidence that is living on as strong as ever in the hands of his successors. 

 

In my case, it would be false humility to not claim my role in moving the practice of Orff Schulwerk forward. So I think it would be valuable and important for someone to take on the archives of 26 recordings of the San Francisco School Orff Ensembles, the 45 planning books that outline every lesson I ever taught in all those years, the 100 plus articles published and unpublished, the 5000+ posts from my Confessions of a Traveling Music Teacher blog, the file cabinets with notes from every workshop I ever taught between 1976 and yesterday, spanning six continents, 50 countries and over 200 cities. Not only the sheer length of time and number of workshops, but expanding the reach of the Schulwerk into advanced (thanks to Keith!) body percussion, into jazz and world music, into deep pedagogy, into ritual and ceremony and celebration, into humanistic principles applicable to all of education, etc., etc. and again, etc. 

 

And so I put out this call. Who wants to be my archivist? And where would this all go? I’m not holding my breath, but hey, never asked, never answered.

 

More to come. 

Lunch with My Sister

Today is my sister’s 77^th birthday. We’ll celebrate next Tuesday and (as mentioned) with our special restaurant closed, will look for another choice at the little mall across from the Larkspur Ferry Terminal. We did eat there occasionally with my folks before discovering the now-closed Left Bank Restaurant, so there’s a little thread of tradition intact. 

 

Meanwhile, another poem I wrote on the occasion seven years ago:

 

The boat’s engine thrumming under my feet

The wind tussling my paltry strands of hair

The spray of mist on my face

as I ferry over the waters to Larkspur Landing.

 

Behind me the skyline of the city I have loved for so long.

To my right, the span of the bridge that I first crossed

            so many years ago to my awaiting destiny

To my left, Alcatraz, Angel Island, each with their stories 

            of told and untold suffering

one now a tourist’s delight

            the other criss-crossing paths of hiker’s bliss.

 

In front, the waters part like a modern day Moses miracle 

All around, above, below, the unfettered feeling of freedom

  speeding across the Bay to lunch with my sister

     on the occasion of her 70^th birthday. 

 

 

We have known each other longer than anyone still living and here we still are. 

I’ll order a Jacques Pepin sandwich at the Left Bank Restaurant 

where we often ate with our parents. 

We’ll remember my father ordering his de-caf coffee, 

my mother shameless flirting with the waiter. 

We’ll talk of our children and our grandchildren and spouses 

and maybe spin off

                         into the news of cousins, old friends and neighbors,

                                       the long parade of our mutual shared life.

 

Then we’ll each turn back, me south, her north

       to our still unfolding lives

              our next steps on our mutual paths. 

 

I took my own advice from this yesterday’s post and watched the Mary Oliver documentary. A beautiful portrait of a beautiful soul. 

 

Today is my sister’s birthday. Since my Dad died in 2007, I began the tradition of taking her to lunch at the Left Bank Café in Larkspur. When parents got older and refused to drive across the Golden Gate Bridge (wisely so), we would meet there for lunch. He and my mother would pick me up at the Larkspur Ferry and drive the short distance to the restaurant, where we each ordered our favorite dishes. So when he passed, I’d meet my sister there to carry on the tradition, either biking to the ferry and then to the restaurant or occasionally biking all the way there from San Francisco. 

 

So while I was arranging this year’s lunch meeting on the phone with her, I looked up the restaurant to make sure they were open on a Tuesday—and they were closed! Permanently! A bearable loss, but a loss nonetheless. Taking Ms. Oliver’s advice from yesterday’s poem, it appears that it’s time to “let it go.”

 

On the occasion of my sister’s birthday and the recent documentary, I share here a poem I wrote back in 2006, when my folks were still with us. I guess I arrived early and was waiting for them with a new Mary Oliver book with me and then wrote this poem. 

LUNCH WITH MARY OLIVER

 

Two hours of cycling through the fog,

Winding through the hills of Marin.

Just at the Larkspur border,

The sun emerged.

Perfect for my sidewalk lunch at the Left Bank café.

 

I quickly ordered my meal

and browsed through a new book of poems

by Mary Oliver.

How happy I was, edging to the state of gratitude that Ms. Oliver

sings so constantly and eloquently.

And it was just at that moment of euphoria, just as I was nodding in 

agreement with her praise of the world, 

that my ear caught the voice

of the woman at the table next to mine 

dining with her two friends.

 

She was telling them about her Pilates workout

And her friend who sailed to Costa Rica

And the new insulation in her house.

And on she went,

and on,

and on,

 like an out-of-tune oboe 

circular breathing through a themeless melody. 

 

My iced tea arrived and she had yet to take even an 8^th note rest in her Symphony of 

Small Talk.

 

 

Then came my hearty whole wheat bread appetizer 

and her friends had still not gotten a word in edgewise, 

sideways or 

through the back door.

 

The waiter brought my Jacques Pépin roasted eggplant sandwich and the

Vapid Wagnerian Opera about Nothing droned on with nary a change in chord.

My French Fries served vertically in a coned napkin were powerless to stop her

And by the iced tea refill,

 still not a hint of a cadence.

 

How I wanted to shout, “NOBODY CARES ABOUT 

YOUR FUCKIN’  INSULATION!!!” 

like a thunderous timpani 

announcing the final chords

           of a concert that never should have been.

 

But instead, I just finished the last leaf of arugula on my plate 

and stared at the empty chair opposite me, 

wondering what it would be like 

             if Mary Oliver was sitting there having lunch with me.

what kind of conversation we would have. 

And how she would react to this radio tuned to the wrong frequency. 

I pictured her eating thoughtfully and then looking up with a wide grin and announcing,

 

“Just listen to the rustle of those eucalyptus leaves in the wind.”

 

 

 

Swimming in the Black River of Loss

 

Every year

everything

I have ever learned

 

in my lifetime

leads back to this: the fires

And the black river of loss

whose other side

 

is salvation, whose meaning

none of us will ever know.

To live in this world

 

You must be able to do three things: 

to love what is mortal;

to hold it

 

against your bones knowing

your own life depends on it;

And, when the time comes to let it go, 

To let it go.”

 

-       Mary Oliver: Excerpt from In Blackwater Woods

       

Yesterday was Mary Oliver’s birthday. Had she stayed with us another seven years, she could have passed into the other world in company with Wendell Berry and Gloria Steinem. Though I don’t know if they ever met, she had much in common with Mr. Berry, both being poets who held the sacredness of the natural world in their trust and praised it with their words. While not an active feminist in the manner of Ms. Steinem, she certainly represented the autonomy and independence the feminist movement strove for, fully claiming her full humanity in a female body and choosing to love, without fanfare, another independent woman, Molly Cook, for their decades together. 

 

The above excerpt was from an early poem and a good reminder to Buddhists who view non-attachment as being aloof from this impermanent world, which becomes just another kind of armor for the heart to avoid the grief of loss. Here Ms. Oliver suggest attaching yourself deeply to the things you love like a limpet clinging to a rock, even as you know you will lose them. Love as deeply as you can and when the time comes to let go, let go with grace and acceptance. 

 

That sense of having loved beyond reason is somehow connected to our deep disappointments with the world, the betrayals that arrived unexpectedly when we spoke out on behalf of what we hoped to protect, the surprise we felt that others couldn’t see our outrage and complaints came from love, the surprise we felt when we finally understood that that indeed was and is their source. So as we travel onward, we need to slowly let those go as well, to unpack those needless rocks in our backpack and set them firmly but gently on the trail. We will always remember where they are and how they weighed us down, but we don’t need to carry them anymore. 

 

So thanks to Mary Oliver for this and other reminders as I hope to step forward lighter than before, with all my old and new loves settled into my very bones. The fires and black river of loss lie before me and I step forward anyway. 

 

PS Tonight I will watch the documentary about Ms. Oliver: Saved by the Beauty of the World. Check it out! 

Book Report

Amongst a thousand things that have me worried, the old idea (for new reasons) that everyone should stay in their corner with their tribe is disconcerting. The new reasons are understandable. We need to find people who share our experience or race or class or gender or sexual preference or age group etc. to feel more understood in a world where such groups are often marginalized or disdained or dismissed. The rise of affinity groups, women’s groups in the 60’s, men’s groups in the 90’s and more created safe spaces for people to share their experience. They can be important steps towards claiming one’s place in the world and feeling the support of like-minded people. 

 

Yet at the end of the day, we all have to share space on this tiny planet and figure out how to be with whoever happens to board the bus. In my field, the current mis-thinking is that one group can’t sing the songs of another group without being called out for cultural appropriation. Not that such appropriation isn’t real. The entire history of rock and roll where white folks rose to the top on the shoulders of black music often without payback or acknowledgement is just one of many cases in points. But the cultural sharing that has Americans playing taiko, Japanese playing bluegrass, Canadians playing gamelan, Indonesians playing jazz, black artists singing opera, white folks singing the blues, is proof that we are all deeply connected in our psyche’s foundation, all dancing together in what Carl Jung called (110 years ago!) the Collective Unconscious. While being mindful of the reality of power dynamics and histories of marginalization, we should not only refuse to stay in our own tiny corner, but actively cross the tracks to the many other sides of town. *

 

This on my mind having just finished a book that did precisely what I mentioned in the post Unthawing the Frozen Sea. When I finished, I just sat there longer feeling the echoes of these deeply inspiring and courageous characters I had just spent time with, deeply touched and moved by their stories. The book? The Help, by Kathryn Stockett. I had seen the movie (which I loved) but never read the book. After finishing listening to The Calamity Club, her latest, it felt logical to read her first book. 

 

When I mentioned I was reading the book, many of my friend’s reactions was typical these days. “Oh, that’s on the bad list, this white woman writing about black people.” How often that happens in our confused contemporary culture. Even a hint of cultural appropriation and the discussion is closed down, the book or piece of music or person dismissed. (Just happened with people writing about Gloria Steinem’s “white feminism.”) Gone is nuance and complexity and changing perspectives and the conversations we actually need to have. 

 

Ms Stockett was well aware of the leap she was taking daring to try to capture a black person’s experience. But isn’t that all of literature? Yes, some get it wrong, bringing too much of their assumptions to the venture, but some are extraordinary in their ability to imagine the other. Men who write about women, women who write about men, black authors writing about white people, white authors writing about Asian people, 20^th century people writing about 12^th century people, young people writing about old people. In Arthur Golden’s book, for example, he crosses three lines as a white man writing about a Japanese woman Memoirs of a Geisha during the 1930’s through 50’s.W.B. Yeats was 28 years old when wrote The Song of Wandering Aengus, his extraordinary poem about an old man. 

 

As a reader far from the culture of Mississippi in the 60’s, I’m not qualified to speak about what details Ms. Stockett may or may not have gotten wrong or what assumptions she brought into her writing. But I felt her love for people on both sides of the tracks and her determination to uncover their deepest humanity, alongside her rightful impatience with those determined to bury such humanity in both themselves and others. How I loathed both Ms. Hilly and Minnie’s husband Leroy, how I loved Minnie and Abileen and Miss Skeeter! 

 

I’ll close with the classic end to the read-out-loud book reports we used to do in 5^th grade: 

 

If you like great characters, a compelling and suspenseful story, people who find their inner courage and undergo big and small transformations, all told in eloquent and colorful language, then I suggest you read this book. 

 

*  When people have been defined by others and their own voices shut down, it is understandable to be skeptical of such line-crossings. My hope is to hear from people who live across the tracks while not forbidding such needed line-crossing. It is a great evolution in culture that more and more previously marginalized authors get to tell their own story in a white male-dominated publishing business— from earlier authors like George Eliot, Jane Austen, Emily Dickinson, Virginia Wolfe to Frederick Douglass, W.E.B. Du Bois, Ralph Ellison, Zora Neale Hurston, James Baldwin, Maya Angelou, Toni Morrison to more contemporary authors like Khaled Hosseini, Isabel Allende, Elif Safak, Orhan Pamuk, Jhumpa Lahiri, Rohinton Mistry, Arundhati Roy, Haruki Murakami, Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Wole Soyinka, Yaa Gyasi, Britt Bennet, Ta-Nahesi Coates, Leslie Marmon Silko, Tommy Orange, Louise Erdrich, Sally Morgan and so many more. 

What If?

What if I took the world off of my shoulders for a bit and let it just be, horrific flaws and all? What if I put down my trumpet and let someone else blow it for me— and feel just fine if they don’t? What if I let people be exactly who they are and give up reforming them or wishing them (God forbid!) to be more like me? What if I asked questions in conversations, wholly listened and ceded the floor? What if I relaxed desire and ambition so that each thing that comes my way is a gifted enough? 

Might these be the themes of the 4^th Act of “My Life?”