Thursday, April 6, 2017

Making Children Happy

It’s an unusual career, to be sure, that tapped me on the shoulder all those years back. It promised nothing in terms of riches, status, ease, comfort, but offered fun, pleasure, challenge and perpetual surprise, a kind of 24/7 Carnival of joyful celebration. But like anything worthy, the route to the Funhouse passed through relentless work, study, reflection and disciplined practice as rigorous as micro-surgery.

At the end of the matter lay the capacity to make children happy. And so I passed three days doing exactly that. A roomful of happy children is an antidote to all our disappointments in this life. There is a different energy in the air than the bus full of silent people trudging to work, the office full of seated adults glued to computers, the juvenile hall filled with sadness and fear. You can reach out and touch the excitement, taste the squeals of delight. The work and play I shared with some 400 children at the Munich International School was a stone tossed into the pond of possibility that sent ripples out to the future and created memories that sustain and inspire.

How do I know? Reports from teachers, parents and the children themselves that after the first day, the children came home visibly excited and eagerly looked forward to the next day. They greeted me with a smile when we passed in the hall and were sincerely sad that I had to leave, making me promise that I would return. Boys and girls alike, little ones and 10-year-olds, thanked me for such fun and wished I could stay longer. The last class of each was a summary of the steps we had taken that culminated in a performance of sorts, kids playing for kids dancing and all singing. They felt the satisfaction of our three-day journey that took them from Point A to Point D and without the annoyance of proving to me what they learned with right answers on paper. Instead, the proof was in the pudding of performance and each, while still needing work for a stage presentation down the line, had the sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.

And for folks intrigued about the pleasures of the power to make children happy, here’s the good news. None of it is dependent upon charisma, excessive talent or a rock-star ambition. All of it is within reach with a few simple ingredients:

1.     An unshakeable faith in the potential, musical and otherwise, of each and every child.
2.     An interest in the minds and hearts of children, a willingness to enter their world and wrap your teaching around their way of thinking and feeling.
3.     An ability to keep the motor running once the musical impulse is released and drive it forward with some sense of direction.
4.     A relaxed attitude about the time kids need to figure things out and enough kindness to encourage rather than scold them. While still being clear and strict about the things that matter.
5.     Choosing material and activities that fit children at different stages of development and are worthy of their time and effort.

There’s more, of course, but that’s a good start.

In the MIS school hallway, there is a quote from Jimi Hendrix:

“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.”

Yes, but. We all have the need and desire to feel powerful, but the deeper question is what kind of power and for what use? I suggest that the power to make children happy is a power worth loving. And I do.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Mass Intimacy

The last two days have been some of the more challenging set-ups in my international work with children. The children, of course, have been fabulous. The facilities, space and instruments—wonderful. The schedule—one class each with grades 1, 2, 3, 4 for 45 minutes—just fine. The presence of support staff ultimately unneeded, but nice to know they’re there and also good that they’re witnessing the miraculous. So what’s the beef?

Each class had between 70 and 90 children. I repeat—between 70 and 90. Not the typical intimate kind of encounter that the Orff work seeks and develops. Fine for mass singing, something I love and am at home with. But 90 kids working out dances all at the same time? Playing xylophones? Doing clapping plays? Again, used to these numbers with adults, but 6-year olds?

Well, I’m happy to report that we did it! Here’s how:

• My strategy of some kids playing xylophones, some kids studying to take over and some kids singing with body percussion pretty much worked. 30 in each group.

• I put out 8 xylophones for 8 kids to play once through part of the song we had song. Then those 8 went off into a circle to start to make up a dance while the next 8 played xylophones. Etc.

• As the new guy in town who knows what he’s doing, who immediately connected with the kids through humor and kid-friendly activity, who has a big enough voice to cut through the 90-kid buzz, combined with well-behaved and disciplined kids (not like mine at the SF School!!) helped it all work. At the end, a darling 8-year old came up to me and said, "Can I get a hug?" It was the perfect punctuation mark for the large sentences we had created.

I still prefer groups of 12-16 kids for the core Orff work, but good to know it’s possible with these extra-large super-size groups. One more class with each group tomorrow—we’ll see if my good luck holds out.

Monday, April 3, 2017

Train of Thought—Not!


Got to the train station in time and felt confident about which train to take and when. Five classes of kids from 4 years old to 4th grade waiting for me at the Munich International School. While waiting for the train, I got absorbed in some body percussion pattern I was trying out for the class and when a train came on the track behind me, I jumped aboard quickly without thinking. Don't ask me why. Then asked a boy if it was going to my destination. “No,” he said, pointing to the tracks on the other side. So I tried to get out, but the door was locked. 

Dang! Well, I had hopes that after going the wrong way one station, I might run across the platform to the right train. And sure enough, as we approached the next station, there was my train poised to go the other way. My doors opened, I stepped out and— it left before I could take the ten steps to board! Double-Dang! So now with no i-Phone and someone waiting to pick me up at the other end, I was going to have to wait 20 minutes for the next one and hope she’d wait for me.

It came, I boarded and after 20 minutes of self-scolding about my own stupidity, I finally relaxed and let it go. And then I noticed it was close to the time I was supposed to arrive. There we were at Stanberg Nord, but I had Stanberg in my memory so stayed on and got off the next stop. Out I walked and my ride was… not there. Had she left because I missed the first train? I saw a café and went to check on Internet connection because Mr. Proud Luddite has refused an i-Phone, but there was no connection to at least write a quick e-mail asking where she might be. But I did have the good sense to double-check her directions and saw that indeed it was Stanberg Nord that was the agreed-upon stop. Now 15 minutes before my class was to begin, things were getting tense. But I thought it would be simple just to go across the tracks and grab the next train one stop back. You would think it would be that simple.

But no. One came quickly, I jumped on board but noticed it wasn’t stopping and some stations were whizzing by. Fate placed a conductor in the same car as me and he confirmed that this was a different train that didn’t stop at Stanberg Nord and indeed, wouldn’t stop until 6 stops below that. Okay, this was suddenly not so charming or funny. Since he was looking on his phone for the next train back the other way, I asked if he could call the person waiting to pick me up. He did, I explained, she promised she’d wait. So I got off the wrong train finally, waiting five minutes, back the other way on the right one and then–miracle of miracles—got off at the right place and met the right person! But at the wrong time. I had missed the 4th grade class that was the first of the day.

How embarrassing! How stupid I was! Twice!!! And then I got thinking about how much people scold themselves for bad decisions and how long they hold on to it and so on. It made me wonder whether Jesus ever had small or big regrets: “Dang! I never should have accepted Judas as a disciple.”

Well, they did manage to re-schedule my missed class in a later break I had, so no big harm done. And I got a story out of it. In fact, a story I told the 4th grade and they were riveted and probably secretly pleased that an adult could be so foolish. They forgave me quicker than I forgave myself and my day with some five classes of kids swept away the cobwebs of my train-fogged mind.

But wasn’t it perfect that on the return train ride I slept past my stop. Yep! Really! Just one station and managed to get back again.

Wish me luck tomorrow!

Sunday, April 2, 2017

Popcorn with a Spoon

It was supposed to rain today, but thankfully it didn’t. My laundry could dry outside in the sun while my host and dear friend Christa and I walked in the park and discussed my bad reputation as a loudmouth. Ha ha! I confessed that you can’t keep pushing the borders of what’s appropriate to say and how and when and how much without pissing some people off (ie, making political references in workshops) and if you do, you can’t then whine and complain that you’re not a member of the good ole boys (or girls) club. Sometimes you have to choose between harsh truth and being the pleasant non-boat-rocker and if you choose the former, be prepared to accept the consequences. I’m slowly accepting this. Very slowly.

We came back and retreated to our computers to defy my last suggestion to “Keep the Sabbath” and mid-afternoon, Christa suggested a popcorn snack. No arm-twisting necessary here! Love me my popcorn! With yeast, just like back home! But I was surprised when she brought me a bowl with a large spoon to eat it with. Eat popcorn with a spoon? Really?!! Have I lived over six decades to encounter this idea for the very first time?! Apparently, yes.

The appeal was I could keep working without getting my fingers greasy. But after about five spoonfuls, it just felt too wrong. So back to the tried-and-true fingers and grease be damned!
Still though, isn’t it funny how something so small as a new way to eat popcorn made my day just a little bit more interesting and intriguing? Like discovering that Belgium cherry beer (thanks Cao Li!) in the Salzburg Merkur. Fantastic!! And another first.

So you see it doesn’t take much to make me happy. Maybe tomorrow I’ll try sipping cherry beer through a straw.

Keeping the Sabbath

It’s the turn of the month and always the sense of another chance for new beginnings and living yet more fully. Though T.S. Eliot called April the cruelest month, he was living in a foggy London rather depressed when he wrote it. I’m here in a sunny Munich, doing the work I was born for with people who give me hope for humanity. So I’m quite happy to see the forsythia bushes and daffodils beginning to color the landscape, to feel the “lilacs born from the dead land” as nature’s message of renewal and to align myself with resurrection.

After that beautiful ending with the beautiful people of the Special Course in beautiful Salzburg, I took the train to Munich and taught a workshop yesterday to 35 German folks.That was fine and fun and inspiring to invite two of our young SF Orff Course graduates to teach something (they live in Munich) and have them do so with such poise, grace, humor and clarity. (Thanks, Franzi and Michi!!). Truly expertly done and another vote for hope that this work will continue to grow and prosper

And now it’s Sunday and I don’t have a single obligation except to my laundry. Well, notes to finish and plans for the next three days of classes with kids and catch up on e-mails and such— so not precisely a day of rest. But still my own timetable and my own version of the Sabbath.

Sundays in Bavaria are quite different than in the States. Things really close and you have to prepare yourself ahead of time or else be stranded. I first encountered this in Edinburgh in 1978 at the beginning of the round-the-world trip my wife and I took. We went out to eat on a Sunday morning and nothing was open. And I mean nothing. No food market, no restaurant, nothing. I remember walking for an hour or so and finally finding some bar where we could get pretzels that also was some kind of strip club (we grabbed the pretzels and got out.) After that, we learned to stock up on Saturday.

The day of rest is an old idea and a good one. A culturally enforced time to stop the madness of constant busyness, connect with the family, with the natural world, with the unbusy self that needs some attention. Back in my young adult life, Sunday was a ritual brunch with my sister and our growing families and a phone call to my parents back in New Jersey. We passed around the Sunday Chronicle newspaper, watched the kids play, discussed the week’s events. After the bagels and cream cheese, we often went out for a walk. We kept at it for some 10 years and it felt good.

Sitting alongside the river in Salzburg last Sunday, I tried to imagine an American culture with no Internet on a Sunday, Versatel machines shut down and such. The 24/7 culture shifting to suggest that constant access and work makes Jack a dull boy and that the family picnic, stroll through the park or time spent with one’s own thoughts is necessary to a life fully lived and savored. That night, there was a dinner at one of the students’ houses and we sat outside for a bit on a bench by the river watching the world go by. I remembered how I did this as a kid on my front stoop, my cat Zorro on my lap. I liked it.  

So note to self. Leave time without the laptop, the book of lists, even the book I’m reading to just sit. Not the formal Zen meditation with proscribed posture and incense timing the practice, the older, universal and timeless practice of just hanging out. Keeping the Sabbath. (Of course, I’m breaking the rule as I write and post this on a Sunday!) William Henry Davies sums it up nicely in this poem:

What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

On to the laundry.